Emotionally Focused Therapy: A Revolutionary Couple Therapy
October 15, 2025
Do you feel that your relationship is stuck in repetitive arguments, coldness, or emotional distance? Do you struggle to connect emotionally with others, or feel overwhelmed by your emotions? Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) might be exactly what you need to heal attachment wounds, enhance emotional wellbeing, and transform the way you relate to yourself and others.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?
EFT is a science-based therapeutic approach that helps individuals understand, manage, and transform their emotions. It is grounded in a simple yet powerful idea: emotions are at the heart of our decisions, our relationships, and our psychological wellbeing.
In the context of romantic relationships, EFT works with the deeper emotions underlying conflicts—such as fear of abandonment, the need for connection, or feelings of inadequacy. Through a structured process, couples learn to express their emotions authentically and respond to one another with empathy and openness.
Why choose EFT?
There are many reasons to consider this approach, but here are the most important:
Proven results: Over 30 years of research supports EFT’s effectiveness. Clinical studies show it has a deep and lasting impact on relationship quality. In fact, its outcomes surpass any other known couple therapy in terms of sustained improvement over time.
Attachment-based: EFT is the only therapeutic model that systematically applies adult attachment theory to understand and resolve relational problems. In other words, it addresses the emotional pain at its root and rebuilds connection.
Effective even in complex situations: EFT has proven successful not only with couples without clinical diagnoses, but also in cases involving depression, anxiety, or post-traumatic stress.
Human and profound: This therapy doesn’t just aim to solve conflicts. Its goal is to help you become more aware of your emotions, understand what you truly need, and learn how to express it in a way that brings you closer to others rather than driving you apart.
How does EFT work?
The process unfolds in three clearly defined phases:
De-escalation of conflict: Harmful communication patterns that cause emotional pain or distance are identified, and the couple works to interrupt the negative cycle.
Rebuilding the bond: Through guided emotional conversations, each partner can express their deepest needs and feel heard in a safe and supportive environment.
Consolidation of change: Once emotional connection is strengthened, the couple learns new ways of communicating and creates shared solutions for the future.
All of this is carried out with the support of a therapist who gently guides and facilitates difficult conversations from a place of care and respect.
What can you expect?
Greater clarity about what you feel and why you feel it
Improved communication without falling into conflict
A safer, closer, and more fulfilling relationship
Emotional tools that will serve you for life
Ready to change from within?
If you feel overwhelmed by your emotions, if your relationships feel stuck, or if there’s a disconnect you don’t know how to resolve, Emotionally Focused Therapy might be the first step towards a more connected and fulfilling life. Because when we change how we feel, we also change how we live and how we love.
Connect with yourself. Connect with others. Discover the power of your emotions.
Book your first session today and begin your journey of transformation with our couple therapy.
Ester Oliver General Health Psychologist License No. B-03379
